Rubin is entertaining in her account of this project, where she devotes an entire year to the pursuit of more happiness. Each month a different goal is set, and by the end she comes off as a much happier, fulfilled person.
Good for Rubin. I on the other hand have my reservations about trying too hard for something that is supposed to come naturally. Occasionally the narrative reminds of the “Holy Grail of Happiness”. Over-thinking causes unnecessary stress, and there is no reason not to believe why over-thinking about happiness would be any different.
Sadness is fundamental to human nature. As ironic as it sounds, feeling down may be a necessity for higher levels of satisfaction. Only when we are starved do we find that food tastes heavenly; only when we are blue do we find that the little things make our day. We might have been less happy if we were not moody to begin with. Imagine our lives do not know feelings of dejection, despair and sadness and only joy. How many of us would want it that way?
A little rain makes the sunshine brighter. Fretting over being happy is surely not the way to achieve true happiness. The crux may just be idling around and allowing serendipity to find you, one way or another. Only we can relieve our own minds of a worry; external influence isn’t going to help very much if we ourselves do not see the point in letting go of certain things.
Purposefully devoting one month to find happiness in small steps seems a little too meticulous and calculating to me. Being happy shouldn’t be such a tedious and draining process. The correct and relaxed mindset will make the process easier, save all the hassle.
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